Time is a precious commodity and why waste it dating the wrong people. However, you can learn value lessons about yourself and what matters to you in an ideal partner along the way. Relationships require sincere effort and meaningful actions from both partners. You are a team and you will either succeed together or fail together. This means that a relationship will forever change you and how you experience the world around you. Although when love doesn’t work out, it can be painful, you evolve into a stronger and more aware person than before it began.
When you meet the “right” person it can feel simple, and refreshing. You can almost feel your spirit begin renewed. In an instant it can make sense to you while all the other relationships didn’t work out, or what all the heartache really prepared you for. They all were a training ground for this very moment of bliss.
More often than not, you meet the love of your life when you least expect it to happen. It can be shortly after a breakup, while you are in a time of self-discovery or in a venue you went to by pure happenstance. Typically, you are in a place where you are distracted by other duties or focal points. So, you are in a place of confidence, time-management and action – not desperation.
During the period after heartache you are in a place of healing and rebuilding yourself. You are looking at yourself from multiple angles and working to fix area you find lacking in your life. You are putting yourself first! By working on aspects we can control, we release the anxiety surrounding the “ifs” and “whens of dating. The right person meets us when we are ready and no sooner.
There is a common adage that states that the love of your life comes after some of your biggest mistakes. By loving the wrong person and understanding what people want to change, they focus on improving themselves. People grow in confidence, and how to best be vulnerable around others. Anger becomes released and, in its place, radical acceptance. When one’s love of their life enters the scene, a person’s heart is softened and joyful. They are able to accept this love because finally they believe that they are worthy of such adoration.