There are times when everyone feels unloved, but it is important to understand why those feelings exist so that you don’t fall into despair. It could be a friend brushes you off or someone seems to ignore your phone calls or texts.
Know that Love is Risky
Love involves putting yourself out there and risking being rejected. Some people guard themselves as a way to keep from being hurt. This can be anyone you have a relationship with. People who guard themselves can’t show love to you as you expect.
There could also be leftover feelings from childhood from a sibling or friend that puts up a block in an adult relationship. You may have put all that to rest, but they could act differently toward you if they haven’t. It could even be that they aren’t like that all the time, but something new triggers it. For instance, a wedding or graduation may trigger some offense that happened years ago so that person may act differently during that time. Be aware of these unspoken elements.
You Have Different Love Expectations
Everyone has a different few of love. Some need more and some give less. You may need to adjust expectations if you want to avoid disappointment. Disappointment in expectations is one thing that affects newlyweds and could lead to problems later.
Actions that don’t match words can be confusing. This is a real problem for relationships with children because they view what you say and what you do with equal importance. If there issues with someone over a mismatch, you should discuss those differences and reasons to keep your feelings clear.
You can avoid perception problems by verbally clarifying your feelings regularly. Everyone likes to be told you love them. This could be an elderly parent, a child, or a spouse. Vocally expressing your feelings also keeps your loved ones from misinterpreting your actions or intentions. This also works well in a new love relationship because it reminds your new love of your intentions while you are building trust.
How to Show Love
There are many ways to show love to others. They fall into four categories of verbal, physical, service, and time spent together. Be aware that you may feel more comfortable expressing love one way, but your loved one prefers love being shown differently. It is best to figure out how the other person best receives love to love them in a way they appreciate.
Verbal ways of showing love include telling them you love them, giving flowers or another gift, and keeping promises. Physical ways to show love include holding hands, hugging, kissing, and doing things like opening car doors for them, pulling out a chair for them to sit, or taking their coat.
Some service ways to show love include cooking dinner, taking on an unpleasant task, or writing love notes. The love shown by spending time together includes listening to them, devoting time to him or her, expending energy on them, and coming home early.
How Do You Get Over Being Sad or Lonely?
Relationships, no matter how loving, aren’t perfect because we are human. All relationships have their soured moments and some of these may leave you or someone else feeling sad or lonely. You will need to learn how to get past this.
First, you must learn to love yourself before expecting someone else to love you. This may seem hard, but sadness and loneliness are rooted in low self-esteem. This can lead to other damaging behavior like being overly needing and lacking confidence.
Some ways you can learn to love yourself can include writing in a journal daily, reading self-help books, and taking some time to devote to yourself. You will grow to love your skin over time.
It’s important to see a doctor if the sadness or loneliness persists for more than 30 days. Your mood could be an indicator of a physical or chemical problem.
There are some other things to remember when these times come your way. The first thing to know is it may not be as big of a deal as you are making it out to be. It could be the other person is just busy. Remember, it will pass and your relationship will overcome it. Third, this isn’t a reflection of you. You are still valuable. Four, life is full of changes. This includes changes to your relationships as they evolve. You, your friends, and family will see many changes such as boyfriends, weddings, divorces, children so make room for changing how you deal with them.